Tuesday, May 08, 2012

Facebook = Regressing Back to Middle School

It's ridiculous that I'm even writing this but hey I feel the need to waste time and avoid the things I should be doing.  Over the past couple weeks I've noticed that people have dropped me as friends on FB.  Normally it's months before I even notice and usually only because someone might mention someone that was a mutual friend and I go look and realize we aren't FB friends anymore.  I'm often amused by being dropped and can usually figure out why.  In most cases I was only friends with them because they asked me and I was feeling nice and accepted.  I rarely had anything in common with them outside some type of organization. 

In the past week or so I have a few people who dropped me and I know the main reasons why and I admit I am humored by it.  One dropped me for not accepting her overzealous advice and judgment on our choice of staying here while Kevin goes to Korea.  She blasted me in a comment in response to my announcement about it all.  I felt like I needed to respond and I feel like I did so nicely.  No big deal, it wasn't until a mutual friend mentioned the girls comment to me that I went back, saw she deleted her comment and noticed we were no longer friends.  Boohoo, I don't really care.  When she friend requested me, I had never even met her in real life so it was not a big loss.  I do think it's silly she deleted me because she didn't agree, but so be it, I can live with it.  It reminds me of middle school and frankly that's a time in my life I don't want to go back to.

The second person who dropped me may have dropped me a while ago and I just now noticed.  I don't really have ill feelings towards the girl but it is obvious that we live in two different worlds.  I wouldn't say we were friends but we share one common circle here at FLW and a mutual "friend" in cyber world.  I honestly don't know why she dropped me nor do I care but I have a feeling something I discussed with another mutual "friend" here may have been shared with her.  It wasn't anything terrible, likely something along the lines of us living in two different worlds and not always understanding each other.  Nothing I would not say to her if we were ever actually in the same place in person.  But no big loss, I don't see that we would ever have went beyond the relationship of acquaintance.

There was another friend I did notice was gone and that one actually perplexes me a bit, I thought we were "friends" but to find I wasn't her friend anymore after going on to wish her well on her upcoming PCS was a bit surprising.  I thought for a brief second about messaging her but I'll be honest, I get annoyed when people message me after I've cleaned up my friend list and deleted people.  No big deal, none of these people who deleted me are a big influence in my life, a lesson I wish I had learned in middle school.

Now I'll end my deep thoughts on the comparison of Facebook and Middle School and get back to the important things I should be doing.  That or start deleting people off of my Facebook just because.


Melissa said...

I can totally relate! You are super good to take it all with good humor. When it happens to me I sit and over-analyze things, wondering what I did wrong and why they don't want to be my friend. Then I obsess about how unfriendable I must be. So I guess it is exactly like junior high was for me. Sadly, I may never grow out of that stage of my life. Luckily, the older I get, the more oblivious I get to what is going on around me, so I don't freak out since I don't notice when I've been slighted. :o)

Korin Lopez said...

Well Nadine I think you are awesome and it is their loss!
Melissa I think you are awesome too!

Paula said...

There are so many people out there who really amaze me. I wonder sometimes how they have time to even be so dramatic. I'm with you, it doesn't bother me in the least. I am to the point in my life that I expect people to disagree with me, I expect to disappoint people, but I'm ok with that. I can only do so much and that's all I'm going to do. I have thought before that you'd be a fun facebook friend :)