Saturday, October 02, 2010

Seasons of Friendship

Today I was thinking about this blog entry from a couple years ago. Lately I've really been reflecting about some of my friendships. Moving so much is hard on some relationships. I have a best friend who will be my best friend forever, no matter where I go or how much time passes. I can see her once every 10 years and we pick up right where we left off. I am blessed by that. I have a few friendships like that.

I see other friendships lately that I thought were lifetime friendships changing direction and I am not going to lie, it's pretty painful. In a couple of them I gave a lot of myself, physically and emotionally. But like I wrote in that entry referenced above, I have to self-evaluate and know that I didn't do anything to harm the relationship.

Finding friends here has been hard but I think it's because of the wall I put up. I had such great relationships at Hood and it was very hard for me to leave them behind. I really put myself out there for many of them and now I don't even know where half of them stand. So I didn't put myself out there when I moved here and I'm slowly making friendships but I'm not going to lie, it's hard. In the past 6 months I met a girl and she is awesome and a lot like me and like so many of my lifelong friends I have and she's moving in 2 months! I hate this aspect of the Army. It just doesn't seem fair!

Anyway, my whole point of this post is to remind myself there is a reason for everything and I need to focus on the blessings and experiences.


John, Heather, Emma, Lily & Jana said...

Nadine, thanks for that - I've been struggling with that part of the Army too - your honest heart really helps! After I moved from Hood and was feeling like that, someone told me, "don't let that stop you from getting in there and making more relationships - you never know what God has in mind for you or those around you."

Paula said...

You are so right about friendship in this Army life. I have made deep, lifelong friends in a short amount of time. I don't have to talk to them often to know they are still my friends (after we move away from each other) I have also been deeply hurt by people I thought were friends that really weren't.
We live and learn, and grow in this lifestyle. I love that I know people all over the country and even the world. If I or one of my kids needs something in another place, a lot of times, I know someone that can help out!

WolfleyFamily said...

We've been kind of in the same boat lately. I have one girlfriend who has been my closest friend for going on 15 years - we can get so busy in our lives but whenever we call each other or get to see each other, we just pick right up like no time has passed. Those friendships are definitely rare but so sweet. We've struggled putting ourselves out there here for various reasons. We've finally begun to meet a few people that we're feeling like we enjoy getting to know. It's definitely a challenge we face in this lifestyle... I'm sorry that you've been let down by others that you invested so much of yourself in...