So I've had over 48 hours to mull over a conversation I had Friday. I'm not going to lie, it ticked me off pretty good. It has me thinking about the perceptions that MilSpouses have about themselves and others. Perceptions already bug me, I honestly read very few "MilSpouse" blogs because many of them are rants about all that they aren't instead of what I feel is worthwhile content for my time. Crap, I started to go off on a sidebar!
Anyway, I was listening to a conversation between a couple of spouses about one of their recent PCS's. They were just having a casual conversation about moves and the one girl went on to list all the reasons why they were at the one location for as long as they were. A lot of it was "Military talk". After a while I asked what unit the husband was in here and she mentioned his branch. I asked her if he was in a certain brigade and she snapped at me that she was not "THAT" kind of spouse who is all in her husband's business. I had to take a deep breath not to snap back or actually punch her in that moment (why would I want to result in physical violence? Because she was such a snot!). The other lady sitting with us mentioned that I had been a Soldier and so I was into all "that" stuff.
Now seriously, knowing what unit your spouse is in is not like digging into all his business. I know there are many spouses who choose not to be as involved and that is okay. I believe knowing what unit your husband is in is a common sense kind of thing but hey that's just me. And she was a contradiction unto herself anyway since obviously she was the kind of spouse who knows things about her husband's units and jobs since just a few minutes earlier she had went through a rather lengthy description of their entire Army career. And might I add that she had no qualms about dropping her husband's rank during that discussion either.
She just really irked me with her snotty attitude. Personally I don't care how involved one is with their spouses career. I support my husband and perhaps the reason I like to know about my husband, his unit and his Soldiers does have something to do with wearing the uniform itself but honestly I don't think so. I have many MilSpouse friends who have not worn the uniform but know what unit their Spouse is in and the basics of their jobs..
Why did it bug me so much, I believe it was because she implied that I was some kind of crazy wife who felt the need to be in my husband's business and her husband's. What she should know and did know before I left the area was that I really don't care at all about her, her husband or his Army career. I was actually being nice since they were new to the area again and figured if they ended up being in our Brigade, I would hook her up with people, info and resources. But I guess she wouldn't want help from "that" kind of wife, so good luck to her in being whatever kind of spouse she wants to be. And I'll just continue being "THAT" spouse because it makes me pretty darn happy!