What?!?! I'm not supposed to mention rank? Oh?!?! That's considered "wearing" my husband's rank if I even mention it? Oh geez, I have pictures posted on my blog where my husband's rank is exposed! I even congratulated him a while back when he got promoted! Well shame on me!!!
Actually, no, not shame on me. I think the whole rank debate is ridiculous. While I do see everyone's perspective and have even tried to explain to many new Military wives why it could be seen one way or another, I truly believe that too many people put too much stupid stress over a really silly thing. There are so many other things going on in the world that the debate over what your husband's rank is is pretty insignificant in the big scheme of things.
Now that being said, I will say it's annoying when women think it defines who they are but you know what if that's what those people want, so what? If someone wants to not be friends with you because your husband is lower ranking than theirs, then again, so what...is it really such a big loss?
I remember when I first moved to Fort Hood and was going to finally meet a girl I had "known" online for quite a few years. When I mentioned that we should all get together for dinner she told me that her husband had said no because my husband is enlisted and hers was an officer. You know what? I told her that was stupid and her husband was stupid but to each their own. So I didn't have to be tortured through a dinner that would have most likely been painful and I didn't have to waste any of my time on close-minded people. I also had a friend, someone I had been friends with for over a decade who told me she had been heartbroken when she had to quit being friends with so many when her husband got promoted. I was totally shocked! I decided to quit being friends with her before she had a chance to dump me, had to be ahead of the game you know!
I have numerous other stories I could share, and I know many of you reading this have some to share as well. Here's my point, it doesn't really matter what rank your husband is. It's all in your attitude.
And after 17 years affiliated with the Military and the whole politics of awards based on rank, well yes, that is a whole different story. And again it's all about the attitude. Believe it or not people see through all the crap. They know who is sincere and who isn't. So be yourself! It's so much better than playing games. Trust me, you can survive in the military without playing games. I promise, life isn't like an episode of Army Wives.
I am not going to spend time editing photos or watching what I say when I am proud of my husband. Oh and I'm going to go somewhere few people go. I cannot stand when people say that he earned his rank, I didn't. While I am not going to wear his rank, I am not going to stand by idly and agree with that statement. I have traveled this journey with him for over 14 years. I have studied for boards with him, I have picked up, dropped off, ironed and starched many uniforms. I have dropped everything to take him something that he needs. I have endured many goodbyes, many hellos, most laden with numerous tears. I have been his therapist, his cheerleader and his reality check. My husband has not walked this journey alone, and while he worked hard to get where he is, he has done so with me by his side. And not only me but my boys, we have all earned his rank in some way.
I'm not going to change my screen name to his rank, I'm not going to introduce myself by his rank. But I am also not going to hide it away because he has worked hard to get here and he hasn't walked that journey alone.