This blog entry had been writing itself in my head for a while now. I've always pushed it away and said nope..not going to write it but obviously the blog has won.
Everyone has heard the old adage "Misery loves company", right? Well that seems to be the case sometimes with Military Spouses. One can't be happy if someone else's Soldier, Marine, Sailor, etc. is home. If you post that you are happy about your love being home to do this or that, it is almost immediately responded to with an "at least he's home" or a "must be nice" or a "sure wish mine was...".
I acknowledge that of course we all wish these things when our love is away from home. But really, is it necessary to rain on someone else's parade?
Now, before I go on, I know there was a time when I belonged to an online forum where a thread was started and the title was sometime like "What Our Husbands do that Annoy the Heck Out of Us." I should have steered clear of that post but no, I clicked it open and went on to read the gripes of all these women (I was the only Military Wife and Kevin was in Iraq). Things like dirty socks, snoring, cold feet...well you get the picture. I simply responded...I wish that there were dirty socks, snoring, cold feet..etc, because it would mean my husband was home and not in Iraq. So I acknowledge I have had my moments. I felt bad after that (a little bad, not like I lost sleep over it) because I didn't want to be the person that rains on everyone's parade.
Alright, I digress. Anyway...that is still different than what I am talking about. I'm talking about when I share that my husband is out with my kids and how happy I am that he his finally here to do that or that he is home for a Holiday that he hasn't been for over a decade and someone has to come in and say..wish mine was. Why is it so hard to just say...I'm happy for you?
I truly am happy whenever someone's husband is home for whatever it is.
And here is why I am "unapologetic". My husband has been there and done that. And so have my kids and myself. I am not sorry my husband is home to pick up the kids from school or go to their campouts or that he is home for a holiday. I am not sorry he gets to spend a birthday with his son or that he falls asleep on the couch with another one. I am not sorry that he gets a 3 day or 4 day weekend or that he gets home at 3 pm on Thursday.
It sucks that your Soldier, Sailor, Marine, etc, is at a stage of their career where they are gone. Trust me I know how much it sucks because we live that too. This is OUR season for happiness and we are going to enjoy it because like YOU, we know how short lived it may be.
I truly believe in supporting one another in this crazy, unpredictable lifestyle we live. We will be there to cry with, laugh with and celebrate with. It just seems lately, people want us to share in the misery. I'm sick of the one way street of support.
I can't wait for the day where there will be no separation but sadly this lifestyle isn't built for such a fantasy. I always pray that time will speed up for those who are separated for their loved ones and will be slow for those who are in a season of togetherness. I will support my fellow Military Spouses in their journey no matter what season they are in.
But what I will not be is apologetic for the season we are enjoying.