Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Shhhhh...don't talk about it

As we approach another deployment, we are doing what we can to get things in order. Paperwork, the house, his gear...plus the many other things that comes within the realm of deployment.

Kevin and I had "the talk". You know, the one that no one wants to have, the one that most people think if you ignore or push to the back of your mind, there is no need for. The big "WHAT IF" talk. It's hard, it's emotional, it's heart wrenching, but it's something that ALL families should talk about regardless of their career choice.

Military families probably think about it more since it's kind of thrown in their face but the reality is that everyone should have a plan of action. Do you know what your spouse wants done if something should happen to him...does he know what you want? Where will the kids go? What's the life insurance policy going to cover, do you have life insurance? Would you stay in the area or move away? What do you want done as far as funeral arrangements, what would you like done with your possessions?

You might be surprised at the answers if you're brave enough to ask. You might realize you don't really know what your loved one really wants.

Have you updated your Wills? Do you have a Will? What about a Living Will? Do you know where they are?

It's a tough topic but just some food for thought....

2 comments:

WolfleyFamily said...

I know what you mean - we've had it numerous times... I know many people think if you're in the military, you're more at risk - it's sad thinking that way though because many of the people we've known who've died weren't even affiliated with the military and hadn't had "the talk"...

NASCAR NITA said...

And make sure the in-laws know so they will not be a pain in your ass later! LOL